tips for the guy to give to his women
If you ask women what their favorite sexual act is (besides masturbation), they will most likely say it is cunnilingus. This is because the clitoris is highly sensitive and made for pleasure, so most women prefer cunnilingus to intercourse because oral sex focuses the pleasure on her clit. There is nothing like the feeling of a warm, wet tongue thrilling her clitoris to ecstasy. Oral sex is the perfect sexual act for giving women pleasurable orgasms. Cunnilingus is not a natural skill, and you must learn to be good at it, by practicing different techniques and finding out what she likes. Here are some tricks you can learn and practice yourself to become an expert “pearl diver”.
1. Get into it—If you are not into giving her head, your lack of enthusiasm and desire will be apparent. So don’t perform cunnilingus because you feel you have to, or because it is a chore. Do it because you love her, because you find her hot and sexy, and because nothing turns you on more than getting her off. If this isn’t true, then why are you doing it in the first place? Also, don’t just go through the motions. Get into it; be creative and responsive to her desires.
2. Hygiene and Body Image—Some women have stronger odors than others, and their essence may be stronger at different times of the month. Because of our cultural stigmas, some women may feel very conscious about how they smell or taste. To make both you and your partner feel more comfortable, why not give her a hot, sensual bath under candlelight to get you both in the mood. That way she won’t be thinking, “I wonder if I taste and smell okay!” and you won’t be turned off by any strong aromas. Women have also been taught for centuries that their genitals are “dirty”. While times are a-changing, some women still may been that their vulva is not beautiful. Maybe they feel their lips are too big, their clitoris too small, or compare themselves to images of unrealistic, airbrushed pussy-porn. Assure them that you find their vulva beautiful and sexy so they can turn off their conscious critical brain and allow themselves to be orally worshipped.
3. Don’t Attack Her Clit—Seriously, most women need a bit of a warm-up before you go down on her. Don’t head straight to her clitoris and start licking her like a sex-starved maniac until she is REALLY turned on by your foreplay. For some women, direct contact with her clit can be uncomfortable, too ticklish, or even painful until she is highly aroused. Try deep kissing, fondling, exploring other areas of her body, whispering in her ear, teasing, erotic massage, and that sort of thing, before you head down to her nether regions.
4. Tease Her—One of the hottest things you can do to drive your lover wild is to tease her so she builds up anticipation. Think of sex (and oral sex) as a naughty suspense, where you come close to her desire (in this case her clitoris and vulva) with light, feathery strokes, nibbles and kisses, and warm exhales of breath, that dance around but never quite make contact with her jewel. At least not at first. Allow her to moan and contort, and to move her hips until she forces you into position, and then you know she can’t stand it anymore and is more than ready for your cunning kiss.
5. Cunning Kiss—Once you are down there you are ready to dive in with your cunning kiss. Lick, suck and nuzzle her vulva, labia and slowly begin to circle your way around and towards the clitoris. Unless she pulls you right there, start off slow and don’t lick directly on the glans of the clitoris. Start with light “French” kisses and flat tongue soft licks. Allow her to decide the intensity and pace of the action. Some women may prefer a stiff tongue and more pressure as well, so try different things and see what she likes.
6. Sweet Spot—For every woman her sweet spot will be different and she will like different types of sensation. Ask her to direct you in what feels best for her. For many women, the upper left side of the clitoris is her “sweet spot”. You can find this out by playing the clock game with her. Imagine her clitoris is a clock and lick and flick around it with your tongue, asking her to tell you at what point it feels best. Usually this will be a side of the clitoris and not directly on it. Once you find it forget teasing and stay with her clit.
7. Polishing the Pearl—Soon she will start grinding against you if you have found her sweet spot and are stimulating it the way she likes. Try up and down strokes as well as back and forth strokes. Try circling the clitoris with your tongue, but always come back to her sweet spot. If she really likes something and is moaning, don’t stop what you are doing. Many women enjoy a steady continuous rhythm, so only change it up only occasionally when your tongue gets tired, and then get right back at it again.
8. Sucking—Some women prefer soft or even hard sucking on their clitoris. It all depends on the woman. So try sucking on it and gage her response. Make sure she is communicating with you about what she likes. Usually, if she is grinding against you, arching her back, pulling your hair, jerking her hips, and moaning, that is a good indicator that she loves what you are doing.
9. Hands & Fingers—While your mouth is busy, don’t forget that you have two hands and twenty fingers. Use your hands to continue to fondle and caress her where she likes. Some women enjoy having their breasts, nipples, anus or vagina stimulated while received head. Others enjoy light caresses on their inner thighs or stomachs. If your partner enjoys penetration during cunnilingus, then you can also use a finger or two to insert inside her. Some women will prefer a stationary finger, while others may enjoy movement or even G spot stimulation. Keep communicating to find out what is working best for her.
10. Don’t Stop—The most important rule to giving a girl great head is, don’t stop when she is reaching her peak of orgasm. Stay with the same rhythm, intensity and sweet spot. Don’t go faster either. She is savoring that peak for as long as she can, so don’t try to rush her through it. Keep in the groove and continue doing whatever it is that is driving her over the edge of ecstasy. Once she has finished orgasm, then you can stop if she tells you to (or squeezes your head between her thighs to push you out). Otherwise slow it down and bask in her orgasm.
Congratulations! You are now a cunnilingus expert! Now, go practice!
tips for the girl for her man
Every girl knows that the way to a man’s libido is via a really good blow job. Many women have a sort of apprehension when it comes to giving fellatio however. They may not feel they have a good “technique”, or that their BF may be comparing them to a porn star, or that they can’t “deep throat”, or should they spit or swallow. Here are some tips to relieve your anxiety, and get your performing oral sex like a Blow Job Queen. Yah for Blow Jobs!
1. Get into it—This is the number one complaint by guys, that their girl isn’t getting into the act. Nothing is worse than a lack-luster attempt, or if you seem bored, distracted, or even worst afraid of his cock like it is some alien monster. Don’t think of fellatio as a “job” that you have to perform, but rather as a sexy gift to your guy to get him really turned on and show him how much you desire him. Don’t be afraid to be enthusiastic by looking him in the eye, moaning, smiling, and devouring him like a hungry little minx. Don’t act, but actually enjoy yourself and really get into it. Be powerful, strong and sexy and show him you really get off by giving him pleasure.
2. Use Eye Contact—Yes, I mentioned this above, but I’m saying it again. Look at him with your sexy bedroom eyes, so he can see how much you are getting into loving him. This also will help you get into it more as well, when you see his look of pleasure on his face, and you can also respond to what he likes best by being engaged with him during the act.
3. No Teeth!—This is rather obvious, but for most guys having teeth scraped across their penis is a big turn off, is most likely painful, and will leave them wincing. Try to wrap your lips around your teeth to avoid scraping his penis while giving a blow job. If your mouth is really small and you can’t avoid scraping you can practice your oral sex skills on a banana or dildo. By practicing, your muscles and ligaments in your jaw will become more flexible over time, so you can take more into your mouth without leaving evil teeth abrasions.
4. Make it Wet—Yes, use lots of lube and split when giving a BJ. The wetter the better. Don’t be afraid to get messy and let your saliva saturate his penis. Try adding lots of flavored lube to your lips like lip gloss to make them really wet, then use your sexy pout to meander along the head and shaft. Follow this with a teasing, warm, wet tongue bath as you lap up the flavored lube, then suck him into your mouth making him wet with lube and spit again. A great warm up technique!
5. Hygiene—If you fear that he may smell or taste strong, then seduce him into the shower where you can lovingly worship his genitals by giving him a sexy foreplay wash-up. You can even start your BJ in there!
6. Condoms—If you are not fluid-bonded with your partner use a condom. Yes, you can get STDs from oral sex, including fellatio. Flavored condoms work great for blow jobs and you can try this sexy trick for putting on a condom with your mouth. Open the condom and place with the reservoir tip facing in, into your mouth, lips slightly parted, with the ring just in front of your teeth. Open your mouth into an “O” shape and place the head of his penis in the condom. Use your tongue to apply pressure to the condom to the roof of your mouth so it doesn’t fill with air when “going down”. Use your lips to roll the condom down the shaft. Make sure your teeth don’t scrape the condom or tear it. Finally, smooth your lips up and down the shaft to squeeze excess air out of the condom. Do this nice and slow and sexy. It may take several attempts to get this right, but I assure you, your partner will not mind the practice.
7. Spit or Swallow?—That is the question. If you are using a condom, you don’t have to worry about this question. If not, then obviously, if you are not fluid bonded with your partner you shouldn’t allow them to ejaculate into your mouth, to protect yourself from getting STDs. Let them pull out at the last moment and spray their money shot on another part of your body which is always sexy. If you are fluid-bonded and enjoy the flavor of your guy’s semen, then go for it. You can also get them to eat lots of pineapple or other fruit to make their ejaculate sweeter. Smoking, alcohol and eating lots of meat with make a guy’s cum taste bitter. Also, asparagus, spinach and vegetables in the cabbage family will make cum bitter, but eating celery, parsley, wheatgrass will make it taste mild. Try feeding him spicy foods with cinnamon, peppermint and lemon which will also make secretions taste sweet and tasty. And, finally, if you don’t want to swallow, don’t feel pressured into doing it. Keep an old towel nearby and discretely dispose of it, or let it dribble out of your mouth as you rub it into your body.
8. Use Variety—Don’t be a “one trick pony” and just suck him off like you are a vacuum cleaner (unless he’s into that). Lick his genitals all over including his scrotum and perineum (the skin between his balls and anus). Kiss the head of his penis like you are giving him a French kiss. Spell the alphabet on his cock with your tongue, smooth your tongue up and down, or swirl it around. Try varying types of pressure from barely touching and soft teasing blows, so ravenous sucking like it is a tasty lollipop. Flick the head of his penis with your tongue, use your hands to stroke, corkscrew his shaft, as well as cup and tickle his scrotum.
9. Multi-Orgasmic—If you want your guy to experience amazing, multi-orgasmic orgasms, try these tricks. First use all your new tricks to build him up to climax. When you feel him starting to go the edge, place your thumb and fingers on either side at the base of his penis just above the balls and gently squeeze to stop the ejaculate. Stop any vigorous sucking and go back to teasing and exploration with your tongue and mouth to bring him down, and then build him back up again. This will make his erection last longer so he can experience a bigger, stronger orgasm.
10. Blow Job Kit—Build a Blow Job Kit that you can keep handy with all the tools you can use for better, more amazing BJs. Keep in it lubes (flavored and water-based), flavored lip gloss, a vibrating cock-ring, pop rocks (they fizz and pop in your mouth for added sensation!), cooling cough drops for cooling sensation play, mini vibrators or a vibrating glove like the Fukuoku. Also add in soft feathers or fur to brush over and tease him with.
11. Deep Throat—Not all girls can deep throat. Becoming an expert deep throat-er is partly anatomy and partly practice. Here are some tips if you want to learn how. First make sure you are comfortable and that your head is back, neck straight. Slowly warm up to a deep throat to by doing several of the techniques above first. Your gag reflex is natural and is there to stop you from choking. However, you can train yourself to ignore or overcome it. How? First, relax your jaw and throat muscles and stick your tongue out. Use a toothbrush to find your gag reflex, and when you start gagging, try scrubbing that area for as long as you can stand. Continue this practice once a day or more (while brushing your teeth) until you can go further and further. Then start practicing on a dildo or banana (peel on) and see how far you can go. The more you practice the further you will eventually be able to swallow. Go at your own pace, and don’t try to force or shove it down. Each time you go deeper; swallow to deactivate your gag reflex. Breathe through your nose and pace your breathing with each withdrawal so you are not gasping for air. Humming or moaning while you go deep will also lessen the gag reflex and relax your throat. When you feel you got the technique down, practice on him!
12. Sexy Peach BJ—This is the sexiest trick to get your guy turned on and you hot for giving him a blowjob. Get a large peach and use an apple corer (or sharp knife) to remove the pit, carving out the middle while making sure it is large enough to fit over your guy’s erection. A soft, ripe peach works better for this trick and is easier to carve. Slide the peach over the tip of his cock, and then slowly slide it down while your mouth follows pursuit. Mmm… Enjoy his juicy peach flavored cock as you suck, lick and devour him, savoring the act. Continue to move the peach up and down, twisting it gently back and forth, like a hand job as your mouth follows behind sucking up the nectar, making his super juicy and horny as hell. Try variations on this and repeat until he climaxes.
13. P-Spot Orgasm—Guys have what is called a P-spot which is the prostate gland. Normally, you can access this via the anus, butt! Not all guys are into that. If your guy isn’t into butt play you can massage his perineum (which gives you indirect access to his P spot) while giving him a BJ and slowly apply more pressure to this spot as he gets more turned on. A lot of times this will feel so good to him that he will unconsciously press down on your fingers to apply more pressure just as he is about to climax. Allow him to use his body to apply the amount of pressure he desires, and when he comes it will be explosive!
